Tag: life
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What Couples Realise Too Late: Regrets That Surface After Divorce
Divorce is often seen as the final solution when a marriage feels too heavy to carry. But once the emotional storm settles, many couples discover that separation brings a different kind of weight — one filled with reflections, “what ifs,” and unspoken regrets.Understanding these regrets doesn’t mean divorce is always wrong. It simply highlights the…
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Why Being Right Feels More Important Than Being Close — And How It Costs Us Our Relationships
In relationships — whether romantic, familial, professional, or social — we often find ourselves in arguments that escalate not because the issue is critical, but because one or both people insist on being right. Why do we fight so hard to prove a point, even when it hurts the people we care about? Why do…
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Confidence vs Competence: Why the Loudest Are Often the Least Capable in the workplace
In 1999, psychologists David Dunning and Justin Kruger uncovered a fascinating paradox of human behavior. Their research, now famously known as the Dunning-Kruger Effect, showed that people with lower competence tend to overestimate their abilities, while the truly competent often underestimate themselves. This creates a strange imbalance: those who know the least often appear the…
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The Silent Trap of Overthinking: How to Recognize It and Break Free
Overthinking is the art of creating problems that weren’t even there. It’s that mental spiral where you replay conversations, imagine worst-case scenarios, and try to control outcomes that are far beyond your reach. At first, it feels like you’re being thorough. But soon, it becomes a mental quicksand — the more you struggle, the deeper…
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Why Some People Struggle to Be Happy: The Trap of Expectations and the Power of Acceptance
Happiness isn’t always about what we have — it’s often about how we think. Some people seem naturally content, while others constantly chase happiness but never quite reach it. Why? A big part of the answer lies in two powerful forces: expectations and acceptance. 1. High Expectations, Low Satisfaction We all carry an internal script…
Dr. Alfred D'Silva 