Author: Dr Alfred’s Life Transformation Centre
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Overthinking: The Mental Trap That Steals Peace – Why we do it, how it harms us, and what we can do to break free
Overthinking is like being stuck in a mental loop—where the same thoughts keep playing over and over again, creating stress, anxiety, and emotional exhaustion. While reflection is a healthy part of decision-making, overthinking is excessive, unproductive, and often harmful. Everyone overthinks at some point, but when it becomes a habit, it can affect relationships, performance,…
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ADHD: Not a Lack of Discipline, but a Different Way of Being
ADHD—Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder—is one of the most misunderstood conditions seen in Indian children today. It is commonly mistaken for bad behaviour, poor parenting, or lack of interest in studies. In many households and schools, a child with ADHD is told to “try harder,” “sit properly,” or “stop being careless.” In reality, ADHD is a…
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Signs That You Are Ruining Your Relationship – How to recognize harmful patterns before it’s too late
Relationships thrive on love, respect, communication, and growth. But even with good intentions, we can unknowingly develop habits that slowly damage the bond with our partner. What begins as minor neglect or unresolved tension can turn into emotional distance, resentment, or even a breakup. Here are some clear signs that you may be ruining your…
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Why Faithful People Cheat: The Quiet Cracks That Break Relationships—and How to Heal Them
Why Do Couples Cheat? Infidelity is rarely about sex alone. If it were, cheating would be easy to explain—and even easier to prevent. But reality is far more uncomfortable. People cheat not because they are bad, but because something within the relationship—or within themselves—has gone unheard for a long time. Most couples don’t wake up…
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Why Women Blame Their Husbands for All Their Problems(And what is really going on beneath the surface)
Understanding the Emotional Roots Behind the Conflict In many marriages, a familiar pattern quietly develops: the wife begins to feel that everything wrong in her life is because of her husband. Emotional dissatisfaction, health issues, loneliness, parenting stress, even loss of self-worth—all roads seem to lead back to him. This blaming is often misunderstood as…
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Which Gender Finds It Harder to Stay Married?Exploring the emotional, cultural, and psychological dynamics behind marital endurance
Marriage is one of the most meaningful yet complex relationships people enter into. While both men and women face challenges in marriage, statistics and psychological studies suggest that women, more often than men, find it harder to stay married—but not for the reasons many might assume. Rather than commitment issues, the primary reasons lie in…
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The Hidden Harm in Everyday Foods: The Truth About Maltodextrin
If you turn over any packaged food—biscuits, chips, sauces, juices, even products marketed as “healthy”—you’ll often find an ingredient quietly listed: maltodextrin.It sounds technical and harmless, but its impact on health is far from simple. This article explains what maltodextrin is, how the food industry uses it, and why it may be more harmful than…
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Identifying and Overcoming Trauma: A Guide for Healing and Growth
Trauma is not just what happened to us—it’s what stayed within us. Many people carry emotional wounds long after the event has passed, often without realizing they are still living in “survival mode.” Healing begins when we learn to identify these hidden imprints and consciously work through them. In this article, we explore how to…
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Why Quick Fix Therapy Is a Myth: Healing Takes Time
We live in an age where everything is fast—fast food, fast replies, fast deliveries. So it’s natural that people also expect fast healing. Many enter therapy hoping for a few magical sessions that will dissolve years of emotional pain. But here’s a truth that every therapist, psychologist, and healed client knows: Quick recovery in therapy…
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How to Apologize After an Argument Without Compromising Your Views
Apologizing after an argument is not about admitting defeat — it’s about restoring respect and connection without abandoning your beliefs. Many people avoid apologizing because they fear it will weaken their position or make them appear wrong. But the truth is, a thoughtful apology can strengthen relationships, show maturity, and encourage open communication — even…
Dr. Alfred D'Silva 