It’s an open secret that great success comes with even greater stress and exhaustion. People burn themselves to achieve that crowning glory of achievement and success. It’s a contagious sprit that has infected most people and given birth to a new social order in which success has to be achieved at any cost and that no cost is great enough to achieve success.
We get tired and exhausted dealing with the day-to-day stresses. People go through stress no matter what the reason be. It could be due to living in a survival mode (living in a state where one is fighting for his survival) working hard to make ends meet or growth mode (Chasing higher and bigger goals). Whatever the reason be, when a person is working beyond his capacity, he lands himself in a stressful zone.
People set goals by comparing themselves with others. Many a times they are not even their own goals. These are the goals that they set, after getting inspired by some other person. When our goals are not our own, it feels hard to achieve it.
Sometimes it’s simply that we are passing through very hard times. It could be due to the added responsibilities of a sick relative, some legal issue, loss of a loved one, natural calamity, and many such situations. Whatever be the reason, staying in a stressful state has bad consequences on our mental and physical health.
We have to balance the stressors or aid ourselves to recover from the stressors.
Your body is the means by which you are able to do and achieve all your goals, responsibilities and desires. Keeping your body, mind and spirit in optimal condition will help you achieve much more than if your mind, body and spirit is in sub optimal condition. For that you will have to take some effort and time to get yourself in an optimal functioning zone.
Here are some suggestions that might help
Take some time out of your day to be by yourself. Let’s call it ALONE TIME. Don’t do any work either mental or physical. Be by yourself that is in solitude. Be calm and quiet. Just be in your own company. You could sit or lay on a couch.
Play some games you like. Playing any game, could be a field game or a board game. Playing to have fun rather than winning. As playing to win will only increase your stress. Playing with people or by yourself has a distracting effect on your mind. It shifts the attention from the stress to something pleasant. Playing has a childhood association to good times. It helps move our mind to the good times we had as children.
Take a walk in the park or some green area which has some nature, plants around you. Spending time with nature has a biological calming effect that makes your mind feel at ease and at home. Nature has a deep mental connect to our deep inner self. One experiences peace and tranquility in the presence of nature. A park is the nearest to nature that one can get to in an urban setting.
Exercise in the open or in a gym. Exercise is known to increase the blood flow to various muscles and organs. Tone the muscles. Increase the amount of endo morphine or the feel-good hormone. It also reduces the pain and inflammation in our body. Increases the tone and builds the muscles. Improves skeletal muscles agility. A stronger body makes you more confident and energetic. Keeps away many diseases and improves your immunity.
Meditation has a great impact on our mental well-being. Meditating just for a few minutes daily has a great influence on our ability to use our brain to accomplish difficult task. It helps in focusing on task at hand and getting more done in less time.
There are many forms and styles of meditation. Each of these types are loaded with benefits for our mental and physical well-being. Practicing a form that fits your mental, physical and spiritual beliefs will benefit you immensely.
Listen to calming music and not agitating or harsh music. Soft instrumental music has a calming effect on our mind and relaxes the tense muscles. Lovers of classical music meditate and are lost in the beauty of this music. They experience total relaxation and recreation of the mind and body. Music can give you the experience of great joy and peace.
Listen to some spiritual learning or insight. Listening to a insight or a good value daily will help you focus on that value throughout the day and keep your thoughts in the right direction leading to better positive thoughts and actions. It helps build and solidify better habits and moral conduct.
Read some Value based books or articles to better understand life and relationships. We live in a world of people and need to know how to deal with them on a day-to-day basis. With better understanding of relationships, we will better the quality of our interactions and develop better relationships and bonds with the people in our life. Leading to a better quality of living.
Read/listen to some inspirational book or audio books. Life is so full of disappointment and negativity. It’s hard to stay positive especially when things keep going in the wrong direction. Seeing inspirational videos or reading inspiring books will uplift your spirits and help you bounce back. It helps you keep believing in your dreams and goals even when you feel like giving up. It increases hope and sustains you till you achieve your most cherished goals.
Painting and drawing helps you open the doors of your imagination and creativity. It is known to be extremely relaxing and at the same time stimulating to the creativity impulses that give rise to discoveries and deep thought. Great scientist and thinkers have got many breakthroughs while deeply engrossed in some form of art.
Pursue a hobby of your choice. We all like to do something that interests us. Gardening, trekking, fishing, mountaineering etc.
Help in some social cause: volunteer for some issues close to your heart. Serving others and seeking nothing in return greatly feeds your self-esteem and you begin to develop a meaning to living. The fulfillment that serving brings to the soul is truly uplifting. It fills you with positive feelings.
Heal yourself by relaxing, serving others, mediation, reading and doing something you love
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