Confidence is the faith and belief in yourself. Confidence comes from a latin word fidere’ which means “to trust”; therefore, having self-confidence is having trust in one’s self”.
In my practice I have come across many individuals having mild to severe confidence issues. I too suffered from this problem for many years due to not really understanding the real cause of the problem. It was when I really understood the real cause of lack of confidence, I could solve it.
I read many self help books on the topic and tried many techniques. These techniques seemed to work for a while but over time they failed. My confidence would temporarily rise for a while, based on the newly learnt technique. But over time it would all come crashing down. After several crashes of confidence, it was difficult for me to have any self-confidence.
The real transformation in my confidence came about when I learnt about the confidence fundamentals. “Confidence is the outcome of developing faith and trust in someone or something. Self confidence comes from having and developing faith in oneself. When you can trust yourself that’s when you have developed self confidence”. This feeling of self confidence is not the outcome of feeling high on pep talk or some motivational and inspiring mumbo jumbo. It’s the outcome of trusting yourself and having faith in yourself becoming aware to the knowledge that you are capable to take care of “YOURSELF”.
So how did I develop this immense reservoir of confidence?
Well, it’s very easy to understand but needs a lot of discipline and consistency to achieve. Here are a few steps to follow and you will be beaming with confidence.
- Think-Plan-Take Massive Action: Set goals that are worthy of this unique, one of a kind person that’s you. God has only manufactured one piece that’s you. No one can ever be you. This understanding that there’s only one ME in this whole wide world and there is no one like me, makes me feel special and is massively uplifting. This sets you apart from everybody and makes you feel special. With this in mind set goals that are worthy of you. Think of your deepest desires and write it down. Follow it by a plan that if properly executed will bring you great results. Then undertake the most important step of MASSIVE ACTION.
- Discipline yourself. The real reason for lack of confidence has it’s roots in this step. When you decide to undertake a task. What you are doing is that you are making a promise to yourself to accomplish that task. Making and keeping promises builds confidence in yourself. People make promises/commitments towards their goals without realizing that they are actually promising themselves. When ever you make a statement or commitment you are making a promise to yourself. Honoring that promise is the path to developing trust in yourself, developing faith in your words, integrity in your words and actions of making and keeping commitments. The more you make commitments and honor them in that measure will your faith and confidence in yourself rise.
- Become Fearless. A common and well known knowledge is that fear is the brakes to achieve anything. Even before you decide to undertake a task your mind will spring into action to prevent you from setting goals and taking action. Fear generating statements like, “I don’t think i can do it”. “This is too much”. “I am feeling scared”. Then comes fear of failure. Then comes shame. “What if I fail”. “Everyone will make fun of me. they will ridicule me”. You can overcome all this by accepting the fact that, in the journey of life we are bound to encounter failure. It’s impossible to accomplish anything without facing failure. The constant in undertaking any task is failure. Success comes but only after you are beaten and bruised by failure. Remember that the only, THE ONLY path to success is by encountering umpteen failure. Once you have accepted this fact and drilled it deep into your head and heart you will smile and rejoice when failure strikes, as you know that you are one step nearer to your goal.
- Learn about Empowerment: Read, listen and see things that will help you learn, understand about your thoughts, feeling and how your brain processes information. What makes you bold and courageous and what makes you chicken out. Read about people’s life stories, about how they encountered challenges and overcame them. Read inspiring literature. Attend seminars and workshops. Join groups of positive and inspiring people. The ones who are constantly doing something and finding ways to accomplish their goals without looking for excuses. Invest your time in empowering your self regularly. Empowerment will help you look for possibilities and not for reasons to quit.
Doing all of the above and specially making promises and honoring them, will over a period of time help build faith in yourself. This faith is the foundation for your confidence.
Learning about empowerment will help you accomplish the right things better and faster. The more you do and practice the above steps the more your confidence will rise.
Homeopathy combined with counseling has proven time and again to be extremely effective in improving confidence and treating inferiority complex.
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