We all wish to live a life we deeply desire. In reality the life most of us lead is not congruent with our deepest desires. It’s not that we all desires the same things, the fact is everyone desires different things and there’s no scarcity of anything. Yet a huge section of society lives a life they never wanted to live. They live a life that doesn’t match up to their deepest desires. They are living far below their expectations. They feel trapped and see no way to live a life of their dreams.
The fact is anyone can live a life of their dreams provided they are willing to make a few changes in their mindset and lifestyle. The following points could greatly impact the quality of their life.
1. Believe that you are the master of your destiny. Only you can change your life. You have to decide and no one is going to do that for you. Others will use you to achieve their goals. When you strongly desire to live a life of your dreams then it’s your responsibility to take action and achieve your goals
2. Set goals that you deeply desire and not goals set by other people. Many times we are living the goals of other people. Our parents, spouse, children, teachers, elders, community influence our goals and we begin to believe that these are our goals. Other people’s goals will not motivate you very strongly.
3. Visualize that you are already living the life you deeply desire. Even though you are far from that reality at this moment, the way to get your mind to work at achieving that goal is to see with the eyes of faith that you are already living the life of your dreams. Make that image real, as real as possible. Spend at least 10 minutes a day visualizing your goals. Let that feeling of already achieved the goal seep into your mind. That’s when the magic of living your dreams begins.
4. To achieve your goals its very important to have a sense of purpose. This gives meaning and direction to achieve your goals. The sense of satisfaction on achieving it. The burning desire that will keep you going comes from the sense of purpose. It will include and unite other people to help you achieve your goal. Sense of purpose is the main cause of unity and loyalty in any enterprise.
4. After all the goal setting and planning comes the most important step. Taking massive action. This step produces all the results, the results that work and the undesired results. Observe the actions that are producing desired results and that which are not producing desired results. Repeat the actions that produce desired results and stop the actions that don’t.
5. To make the process work faster and better for yourself and your team it is necessary to develop a reward system to reinforce behaviors that are producing results. It will encourage you and your team to do more of those actions. The rewards could include giving yourself the permission to enjoy and do the things that you always wanted to do but could not due because you were busy. Financial rewards, travel, getting a membership to your favorite club. Buying something you deeply desired.
7. While doing anything one will always encounter failure more than success. Holding on to failure will only make you fearful and pessimistic. Let go of the failures and fears of the past as they serve no worthy purpose on the contrary they will only drag you down. Drain all your passion and enthusiasm and paralyze you in your steps. Failure has a purpose and it helps you understand what works and what dose not. After the learning is done then it’s time to let go of the failure.
8. When anyone does more and achieves more than others. Even before the achievements or results arrive the naysayers arrive and spill out tons of discouraging advice and comments. Sometimes it could be genuine concern and well intended advice. When you strongly believe in your goals it’s best to ignore all their statements and go marching into the darkness with a strong sense of hope and a firm belief that you will realize your dreams.
9. Let everyone know about your plans. Announce your goal to others. Talk about your big dreams. Don’t disclose the plans but let them know what you plan to achieve. Don’t get me wrong. I am not asking you to count the chickens before they hatch. But this action burns the bridge that lead you to retreat back to your comfort zone when the challenges get really hard. You won’t be able to give up easily. The most common reason for failure is that when things get tough people give up. If only they would persist a little longer they would be living their dreams. The social pressure that is generated won’t let you give up without a strong big fight. It will make you survive several storms and come out stronger than before.
10. Empower the people around you. Inspire and empower your team. Motivate them regularly. As you work towards your goals always inspire others, motivate others to achieve their dreams. Whenever you do that you will be filled and renewed with more enthusiasm, vigor and an enhanced drive. The people you uplift by your motivation will be your safety net and when you get beaten up and feel like quitting they will be the ones that will raise your spirits to face another sunrise. What goes around comes around. The bread you cast on the waters never let you go hungry.
Empowerment combined with individual motivational counseling and life coaching has a profound effect on the magnitude of success.
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Dr. Alfred D'Silva 
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