How do I get mentally mature?

Question raised by a 21 year old.

I’m 21 and still act childish and immature this has led to people not taking me seriously. What do I do?

Solution:

Immature behaviour is focused on, “its all about me”. It’s selfish And irresponsible. I don’t know what to do. You direct me. You control me. I cannot be expected to do the right thing. You shout at me then I’ll do it.

It’s about speaking and acting totally out of instincts. It’s being impulsive. It has very little to do with thinking before acting.

The understanding that, actions are followed by consequences is not yet learnt.

Immature behaviour is linked to the idea that, life is all about enjoying the privileges and varied levels of neglect towards one’s duties.

Mature behaviour on the other hand is responsible, it’s about reasoning and understanding the circumstances. Doing the things that got to be done. Doing the right things for the right reasons at the right time. Having the understanding that, Action is always followed by consequences. The awareness that, “We may be free to choose our actions but we are not free from the consequences that arise from those actions“.

Maturity is linked to responsibility, the more responsible behaviour and actions. The more mature you are.

You could begin with the following:

Think about your roles and goals. Write them down.

Write your long term objectives and short term action plans. Break down into smaller chunks or steps. so that you could easily achieve them. Set start dates and end dates to each of your goals and sub goals.

Start taking action.

Deeply think about every action you take and the consequences that would arise.
Take the action that produces the desired result and cancel all other options

If you begin to start behaving responsibly, speaking the right things at the right time, start doing the duties that are expected from you. Avoid acting out of your whims and fancies. avoid unwanted words, comments and actions.

Think before several times before you speak and act. Think of the consequences and possible interpretation of your words and actions before you utter or do them. Stop being impulsive and rash. This is what your family is more upset about.

Fulfill the expectations of your family.

I think they will change their opinion about you.

Above all you would have evolved into a mature person and will continue to earn the respect of everyone.